Child Support System

I have now been dealing with the Child Support system in N.Y. for 3 1/2 years.  I have actually received support for one of those years.  The first 6 months, he refused to give me anything.  Then the Judge had his wages garnished.  Then he lost his job almost a year to the day after that settlement. 
He hasn't had a job since.  If you have read my posts so far, you will know that he took off and moved back home to Dallas, TX in July, 2009. 
That takes Child Support issues to a whole other level.  The INTERSTATE level.
Now, most people think that Child Support is handled by the Federal Government.  That is not true. 
Each state continues to have their own regulations and procedures when it comes to support.
As with any government agency, there are levels and procedures to follow, and a chain of command that must be followed.  It would just be nice to know these steps in advance. 
Child support should not be a learn as you go process in life.
I spent an entire day, in January 2012, at the NYC Law Office to begin the process for my Interstate Child Support Case.  Mind you, He had already been out of work for a year, and I spent that year asking "WHAT CAN I DO"?  No one ever said I needed to file the interstate paperwork and with whom.
So I go to the Law Office, meet with Lawyers, and sign a bunch of forms, and am told we should have something in about 6 months. 
Great 6 more f'in months...

So in six months (yes, I waited six months to the day) I called the law office and followed that with an e-mail.  A few days later, I was called back and told that Texas had received the paperwork, but they have not yet processed it yet.  Call back in about 2-3 months.....

Yeah...  2-3 months    (Ex-hubby still out of work....)

Texas finally assigned a case number and have been working on trying to "find him" in their system.  HOW HARD IS IT TO FIND SOMEONE WHEN YOU GIVE THEM EVERYTHING?????

I called the state of Texas.  They cant speak to me.  I have to go through NY.
I call NY and they tell me they are waiting on Texas. 

Would you believe I spoke with the NY Law Office yesterday and Texas says they have a possible employer listed, and they need to verify it, so give them another 2-3 months.........
ARE YOU KIDDING ME????

My ex is now almost $50k behind, and I still cant do anything about it? 
Would you also believe that he actually asked me to forgive the arrears because he wont be able to pay them back?????

If he was a solid father, spent time with my son, and helped me to raise him, then maybe..  but you run off, never call, never ask and you want me to forgive the arrears?
How the heck do you think I have been financially taking care of my son?  Paying for his clothes, his food, rent and of course day care.

I guess its just more of a waiting game.  In the mean time, I'm going to see what else there is that I can do to push this.  I have to keep trying or else I am going to go crazy...