Child Support....

Any parent who raises a child and is supposed to get child support deserves not only the actual money but we deserve a support of the government in getting that money.
Why is it that the custodial parent had to fight and search and call and take time off from their jobs to get information?
Please note that I am not only referring to the mothers in this rant, any father who collects support has the same issues. I am also not bashing the parents, just the system in place tat is meant to help us.
My ex-husband is in arrears of close to $40k. I have a close friend who's arrears are closer to $80K.
The parent who is responsible to pay no longer lives in the same state as the case. Which means an enormous amount of red tape.
It is us, the custodial parent, struggling with money alone, who has to appear at the court house to file a petition, take time off of work to go to the law office, wait for one state to talk to the other...
All in the hopes that things can get done.
And then you wait... And wait... And wait...
Arrears grow
No one does anything
No phone calls or emails...
How do you enjoy the summer when you have no money?
How can you do anything other than the park?
What happens when it comes down to no food in the house...
Who is there to help?
Where do you turn?
I make too much money for state assistance. I would get a second job, but what would be the point when all of those earning would pay for a babysitter while I was there.
Who can you even get advice from without them wanting to get paid?
I'm not looking for handouts. Just a fair fu#%ing shot..