As parents, there are days we all look forward to. Mothers day & fathers day are just examples.
Fathers day brings many issues to my mind. My relationship with the sperm donor came to a nasty head several years ago on fathers day. This is also the time when I get the most questions about the "father".
While I would love to say "baby, your father is a worthless excuse of a human being who is nothing but lazy and full of excuses" I really don't think that would be a great idea to say to my four year old.
It comes down to "baby. Your father is far away.".
It took many long hours for me to decide how to approach the father situation.
When he left me, I told him I would not come between him and our son. That eventually had to change. He never called. He didn't even speak to me let alone my son. So I gave him a choice. He could make an effort to consistently contact Chris or he couldn't contact him at all.
That never happened, and I still gave in. I would let him talk to Chris every once in awhile just to make father happy. I was actually hoping it would push him to get a job.
I was really kidding myself. The only thing that happened is that my son would have nightmares and wet the bed during the nights he spoke with his father.
